Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Desire - It's not a dirty word.

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
                                                                    Genesis 3:16 KJV

Every woman has a deep desire to be loved by a man. We want to feel protected, loved and cherished by him.

Remember when you were little, and played dress-ups? Inevitably there would be a marriage between dolls with a teddy bear presiding. Tea parties would have toys being addressed as Mrs Smith, and there would be plenty of dressing-up and playing house. 

When you got a little older, if a Peter Jones said he liked you…well that meant plenty of daydreaming and doodling Mr and Mrs Jones over everything. And possibly picking out  your wedding dress from magazines or catalogues.

As little princesses, and eventually bigger ones, we all have that desire to be married. To have our own house complete with white picket fence, children and trellised roses.

What most women don’t understand, is God gave this desire to us as a curse for our sin and it’s something we’ll struggle with until God calls us home.

Yes, that’s right. It was a curse handed down because of sin. Pretty amazing, isn’t it?

Our desire for a husband, his love and companionship is something we can’t help. It’s an innate desire God gave us through Eve.

Sounds pretty grim. But, it’s not.

Our joy should be found first in God, then in our husband’s and finally our families and everything else.

When we disrupt that pattern or put other things before our husband, we disrupt God’s will for our lives. Life becomes tense, our husband’s feel disrespected, and especially in today’s society, they may turn to someone who can take our place.

So, what do we do about?

Easy. Put your husband first. Make his favourite meals, keep the house clean, show him how much he’s respected.

Teach your children to respect their father.

Schedule  dates with him. It doesn’t have to be fancy, even a quiet coffee and apple pie at McDonald's, as long as you do it.

Never work at night. This can be hard, especially for those of us who work from home, but make sure that night times are set aside for family.

Be feminine. Wear makeup or a pretty perfume it that’s what your husband likes.

The reward of a wonderful marriage outweighs anything the world can offer.

After all, God did give you that desire. And we know He only wants the best for our lives.


Dorothy said... [Reply to comment]

That's beautiful Lee! I had my wedding dress picked out at 14. When I married at 21, it was in a very similar looking dress :)
I love your encouragement to not disrupt God's pattern for our lives. Him first, then our husbands.... all in His order and place. Thank you :)

SRI said... [Reply to comment]

Thank you, Dotti! Like you, I had my wedding dress picked out at a young age and did plenty of daydreaming about Mr. Right.

God's pattern certainly is important, isn't it? In this and every area of our lives. :)

Narelle said... [Reply to comment]

Yep, God first hubby second and you can't go wrong. Shame we need reminders every now and then!

Carla Gade said... [Reply to comment]

Nice topic, God has set desire for him and our spouses in our hearts.

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