Monday, October 14, 2013

Praying for your future spouse.

In our house, even though our son is only 12, we tend to talk about our son's future; his career, where he might live, and of course, his future spouse. 

I'm sure in your family it's exactly the same. At least I hope so. 

Helping your child pray and plan for their future is very important. Especially when it comes to marriage. 

Rather than leave everything to chance, we've sort God's wisdom.

Philippians 4:6-8

King James Version (KJV)
Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

We've made sure our son understands the type of qualities he desires in his future spouse. For this we've shown him Proverbs 31 and Titus 2. 

I don't think there's a Christian woman out there who doesn't truly desire to be the type of woman described in those verses. 

We also help him pray for her on a daily basis. Our prayers include the normal things such as faith, education, health, happiness and we also include her family in those prayers. 

In order to do this we gave him a prayer journal. Each page is divided into three sections; two small and one large. 

The first small one has the date the particular prayer was started on. The larger section is the actual prayer while the last section is date answered. 

The page concerning qualities of his future spouse is divided into two sections.

One for her and one for him.

You see, we don't believe he should be praying just for her. We believe he should also be praying for himself as her future husband and as the father of their future children. 

We asked him to sit down and think about qualities he would bring to their marriage. Things such as compassion, financial support, being a good listener, not holding grudges, as well as being able to cook and use the washing machine! 

For the qualities God instructs a husband should have and be able to bring to the marriage we showed him Ephesians 5: 22-28 and Colossians 3:18-19.

The reason we did this is we didn't want him to just focus on his wife and her qualities. We wanted him to really think about how he's growing, and whether the qualities he's learning now are one's which his wife will find desirable. 

It's also easier to remove bad habits when they first raise their ugly heads, than let them fester and grow. 

Now before you think that we place too much emphasis on his future and that he isn't given room to be a normal 12 year old, that isn't the case. 

We also make sure he knows to pray for the future but keep his feet firmly planted in today. 

He can mow the lawn, wash his clothes and cook a meal but he also plays imaginary games, builds forts and loves being with friends. 

However when it comes to praying for our futures, our family believes it's never to early, or too late, to start.



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